Relationship Talk: Q and A #2

Q: It’s upsetting to me that I keep losing friends because we differ in our political stance and our views of the upcoming election.  How do I handle this? —June in Westlake Village. A: It can be very painful to see people who we have called friends turn away from us just because we don’t agree on certain things.  There was a time when friends could “agree to disagree” and yet still hold mutual respect and care for each other.  Issues that we are facing today societally are emotionally charged,…

Relationship Talk: Q and A #1

Q:  With my husband working remotely from home, we are always together.  Even though I love my husband and we have a good relationship, I feel frustrated that I don’t have the alone time that I used to.  What do I do?  —Terry from Thousand Oaks A: It can be a big adjustment to have both spouses spending all day, every day together.  What we have found in our therapy practice during this pandemic is that marital relationships that were successful and had good communication prior to COVID are currently…

Why You Need an Estate Plan

Amazingly, six in 10 United States adults do not have a will or living trust, and almost half of boomers (age 53-71) haven’t put their estate planning documents in place yet. In my experience, most people fail to set up an estate plan because they simply don’t know they need one. Estate planning isn’t just for the wealthy; every adult needs some level of estate planning, regardless of their age or how many assets they have. In fact, if you don’t create your own estate plan, then you are automatically…

Pandemic of loneliness

We have all been experiencing the effects of COVID-19 on our freedoms and the loss of what we consider normal.  This virus pandemic has created the need for social distancing, quarantine, and self-isolation. However, COVID-19 is not the only pandemic with which we are dealing. In America and in many other countries, we are facing perhaps an even larger threat to our mental and physical health—the Pandemic of Loneliness. According to research, many people, even though they might have “hundreds” of friends through social media, have never felt more isolated…

The Conejo Valley’s trials and recreational facilities. FAQ

Our community has been blessed with many excellent natural resources and recreational facilities. Unfortunately, during the COVID-19 crackdown, access to some of the facilities has been limited.  Many people have questions regarding availability and future plans of the Conejo Recreation and Park District (CRPD) and the Conejo Open Space Conservation Agency (COSCA) facilities. Some of the answers are addressed below. Why has access to Paradise Falls been closed? During the Memorial Day weekend, the Paradise Falls area of Wildwood Park was inundated with record crowds that compromised the sensitive habitat…

The Missing Touch

It has been several months since the beginning of the COVID-19 quarantine and the scientific data is in. The number of individuals who have contracted the coronavirus and the number of related deaths are dramatically lower than predicted. While many breathe a sigh of relief, another virulent affliction is materializing from behind masks and locked doors. I am speaking of the significant mental health crisis we are now facing in our country as a result of this shutdown. A brand-new, unpublished study by researchers Jean M. Twenge and Thomas E.…

Weddings in the age of the coronavirus epidemic

Photo by Ethan Olson

Written by Laura Spach and Joel Kilpatrick Taylor Olson and Andrew Meyers, both 21, met and fell in love at Azusa Pacific University. They planned to get married August 2, 2020 — and then COVID-19 hit. “One of my friend’s wedding got canceled, so they had a courthouse wedding,” says Andrew, who is from Eugene, Oregon. “Then they had a drive-by wedding so people could say congrats and drop off a gift.” Like a number of couples trying to get married in the age of COVID, Taylor and Andrew decided…

Autism: A Mother’s Journey

Luke and Me

Luke loves playing with water. He loves swimming pools, spraying water out of spray bottles and especially splashing in the fountains at Janss Marketplace. Like many 8-year-olds, he is fascinated with LEGO’s, horses, climbing, exploring the neighborhood, and jumping at Dojo Boom. For Luke and his family, play is a big part of their communication.  “I feel it a great privilege to be able to express some thoughts and emotions that come with raising Luke, my 8-year-old child with Autism Spectrum Disorder,” explains Joyce Shen. “I am aware within the…

German Shepherd Rescue Organization Saves Thousands of Dogs Annually

German Shepherd Puppies

By Robin Jampol and Don Yates The phone rarely stops ringing at Westside German Shepherd Rescue because the need to save another magnificent German Shepherd Dog (GSD) never ends. Often the calls are from other animal shelters that are full and they want to prevent the destruction of a GSD. There have been calls from the police who have found a GSD tied to a bag of food and left by the side of the road. Sometimes apartment managers find dogs left behind when the tenant moved or the gift…

Spring: Time to Get Outdoors

Lake Eleanor - CRPD

By Doug Nickles [Note: While writing this article, the rules and guidelines implemented, due to the Covid-19 virus, changed daily. Please observe all applicable guidelines when outdoors, to keep yourself and others safe. Latest update is that the trails are open again, as of April 22, 2020.] We often talk about it, wish we had more time to execute it, relish the days we indulge in it and often, make some of our best memories when we succeed in accomplishing it. Think for a moment…back to a day that brings…